It all starts with compassion

We offer compassion to our friends, family, colleagues… even complete strangers! What if you would tell yourself the same you would tell a loved one?

We are very understanding with other people’s problems and we normally try to find a way to make them feel better about themselves, but what happens when we don’t apply this to ourselves?

Negative self-talk is one of the most toxic things we can do to ourselves. It can come from so many different backgrounds: low self-esteem, distorted self-worth, perfectionism, catastrophising… So, it is key to identify when we are in the middle of this negative self-talk and to challenge it: don’t accept what your subconscious is telling you, ask yourself if, realistically, the speech going on in your mind is true (I can already tell you: on the 99.9% of the cases is not) and if it is helping you right now.

Try to identify where this negative self-image is coming from by journaling, talking to a coach or therapist, meditating, etc. and reframe it whenever you can. Master your own thoughts and learn to stop when you are bringing yourself down.

This doesn’t happen overnight, it takes time and a lot of work on ourselves, but it is extremely worth it for us to stop self-sabotaging everything we do. This way we become as understanding of our situation as we would be if we were talking about a loved one’s issue.